What are
differences between the possible motives and how they are realized in the
practice, that is to say, in sex (does she enjoy or just pretend to enjoy it?)
There is a great
difference in the meaning of the terms “want”, “have to” and “would like to”,
if we look a little closer to them. The speaker’s intention with using the
terms reflects the diversity of human intentions. If we want to apply the
difference between the terms for escort work, then in the very beginning let's
start with what it is like if an escort does sexual services because she has to
do so. In this case I assume that she has not got much choice whether to give
or not to provide sexual services. These escorts are the prostitutes who are
forced to work. For them breaking out of the trade, which seems highly
unlikely, is not included in the options. Their work quality is not
satisfactory, but in this category it is not the purpose, as they have neither
sense of vocation, nor career opportunity, being in defenceless situation. In
their case there is no sense in asking themselves whether they like carrying
out escort service or not as they are forced do sex work and not to think about
it. Duty-conscious escorts are already outside the "have to" work
attitude. As a result, they probably already have some free will to choose what
to do in life. In their case, the sense of duty is what determines their work
morale. They are obliged to pay their bills and rent, so they decide to work,
though it is not escort prostitution that would be their dream job, still they
are driven to choose escort trade - for some reasons.
We have already
clarified that the quality of escort service depends largely on how consciously
it is done. The escort service carried out with professionalism is perceptibly
higher in quality than the one carried out of duty. The sense of vocation
usually goes with devotion, while the sense of duty is a state of mind when
something is done because it is necessary, whether it is good or not. There are
a lot of things people do, not because they like it, but because they have to
do it, the system requires them to do it. It is like homework for students.
Most of the times they do not feel like doing it, but they usually get it done
as they know this is a minimal requirement. They get it done, whipping it
together though, not caring about the results, just concentrating on apparently
meeting the requirement of the teacher, the school and the curriculum. This
kind of student is not likely to become a head boy/girl at school. The
situation is the same with escort work. There are escorts who invest just the
amount of energy and care which is enough to get the work done and that’s all.
They do not enjoy their work and this can easily be felt by sex clients. If the
escort of this kind has very good acting skills, she can hide her displeasure,
but beyond a certain point she won’t be able to control her disgust that will
began influencing the quality of sexual service. Even if she is striving to
improve and perfect her sexual technique, she won’t be able to work with such
dedication and devotion that would enable her to go over her limits in order to
serve the sex client better. It is partly so because she herself can't enjoy
it, neither the sex, nor, consequently, the sex client's wishes. This is a
hindrance in this profession. The escorts who like to satisfy their customers
will be much more favoured. This is a plus that cannot be learned, so an escort
either has it or does not. This plus adds a special charge to the sex she provides,
which can be felt but not necessarily pronounced. If she also enjoys the time
she spends with her sex client, then it will definitely be impressive for the
client. That's how everyone goes with it. We do not like spending time with
someone who does not want our company, even if we pay her to be with us. In
fact, when a sex client pays an escort, he pays not only for her time, for sex
only, but to make him feel good, to have fun. This is what he expects from any
escort meeting for his money. Of course, the gratification of concealed sexual
perversions can also be enough pleasure for sex clients, but if the escort can
make the sexual service even better by giving devotion and attention, then the
escort service will have the plus that makes the sex client not just sexually
satisfied, but overall feel happy.