A request to Dave

adriana · · 8 · 0

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Dave,

Since you respond for Sex-tjejer I would like to make a request in regards to moderation of content in the threads. First the website sex-tjejer was developed with the intention to advertise escort ladies and also to be a place with freedom of speech. The website existence is mainly dependent on the purchase of advertisements made by escorts, and not on members opinion. Without our money, there is no platform, no maintenance, no staff (admins), no threads and the last no members.

It is also of my understanding that THIS IS our online workplace, and for this matter the website has the obligation to provide a virtual safe environment for the girls, which is well done to a certain extent. The visitors of the website, are of course a valuable element that makes it one of the most if not the most popular page in Sweden, however I see a clear division and different treatment when it comes to escorts and members (mostly formed by men).

I have addressed this issue before and I am here addressing it again because I would like to request you to review the rules on the thread. I agree with you that this is a place where people have the  freedom to speak their mind and say whatever they want however, the ''speech'' here should be more controlled with some rules.

I believe it is important for the escorts to be part of this site where they do not have to be constantly degraded by men. So here it comes my suggestion regarding  rules:

Contents and comments that are sexists, chavists, and has the intent to degrade, undermine, humiliate, categorize, cause pain to the escorts should be removed, no matter who created the thread.
Members that do this should be warned on the thread, be reminded of the rules and the risk of getting his account deleted.

I am sure Dave, as a man, it is a little bit hard for you, to understand what I mean, and I am sure many members might disagree with this, but I need to admit that it is already hard enough for many of us, escorts to be daily receiving sms and phone calls from abusive men and also to come to this website and see the same kind of content. The content is written sometimes very explicit, but I am very concerned about the implicit too, because IMPLICIT is not less harmful than EXPLICIT, it is just WELL WRITTEN.

I think Sex-tjejer as a leading site, has much more obligations/responsibilities than the other websites besides providing an online platform where people has the freedom to write about the topic, Sex-tjejer has to be seen as an example because you are looked at as main reference, and so I believe this page has also the duty to promote values as collaboration, respect, dignity, appreciation, empathy, equality and fairness. Values that seem to not be clearly stated here, in any form of action.


Please do not take my words as an insult, I am not against the site however, I would like to see here a progress in the threads. All I ask is to review my request.

I am looking forward for a response.

P.S. I am sorry I will always create work, but nothing improves without it.

Adriana



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admin.Dave · The manager
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Dear Adriana, Thank you for your request. Our webiste has rules for the forum content as well, you can read about it in the HELP menu. It has been in operation since the website existing. By these rules we have been able to controll our forum correctly so far therefore i do not think that we should introduce any new one. The forum is a free place for everyone's opinion. We have been controlling the forum comments regurarly and remove the contens if they break the current rules of it. But it happens rarely since most of the contents adjusted to the rules.

Kind Regards.
Dave.


Pocahontas · Hobby Escort · admin.Dave
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I wrote this before I checked the rules and there are no rules to prevent this from happening. Well it doesnt matter men are men and escorts are escorts...


admin.Dave · The manager · admin.Dave
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http://sex-tjejer.com/wiki/using_the_forum_and_the_comment_system


Pocahontas · Hobby Escort · admin.Dave
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Well it is not specific as I said you dont think How harmful what guys write to girls, They shouldnt write, but They dont think it is harmful and so doesnt you. The judges (admins) do not see it harmful so it is what it is. There are many good examples here like Kristian post and Lilian stupid answers or even Informer post that pass bad message, incentive guys to objectify women, to dosconsider the consequences of unprotected sex, But who cares right? In the end who pays the expensive price it is US, not them, WE get mistreated. For me it is not ok, it will never be. I am not going to get used to this.


Pocahontas · Hobby Escort · admin.Dave
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I will find a new approach to debate this but this is not over, this is not ok and most important this is not FAIR.


Nyfiken · Always kiss on the lips
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"comments that are sexists,..., catagorize" -- followed by "Dave, as a man, it is a little bit hard for you, to understand". Double standards aside, you want to moderate a barely literate forum of perceived implicit messages?


Pocahontas · Hobby Escort · Nyfiken
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Well it is clearly hard for you guys to understand it, and I am sure is for him because he is not an escort, he is a man. To add if you go to the member rules http://sex-tjejer.com/wiki/using_the_forum_and_the_comment_system you will find NOTHING about this. Nothing about respect, equal treatment, fairness...everyday I see guys calling us all kinds of things, like for example Lillian, an hypocrite that pretends to be nice with girls, buy sex but is there calling all of the escorts greedy, even though he bought it on his own will. So, Yes, I find it very hard to believe that Dave will fully understand, since our last conversation he still can not aknowledge that this kind of behavior is not OK.


Pocahontas · Hobby Escort · Nyfiken
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Maybe I should correct myself and instead of saying ''Implicit'', I would say subtle ways to insult escorts. I am sorry but I do not have to tolerate this kind of shit, and none of the girls. Many people probably read and because they are so used to it, they might just say 'oh it is ok' or ' just one more that think that way'. This should not be a tolerable behavior... it should not happen POINT. The sad part of it is that, this is coming from people that is everyday complaining the police is not doing their good job catching pimps, but they are buying sex and trash talking and say that escorts are basically for temporarialy use. Do I really need that piece of information? I do not think so.


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